This week we talked about dating and how things have changed in the days. 20 or 30 years ago it was normal to date numerous people at the same time and that was normal. Now a days you only go on dates with one person at a time. If you go on dates with multiple people then you are a player or not serious. Much has changed. My mom told me that she went on dates with multiple people even when she was *not officially* dating my dad. My dad went to track events every weekend so my mom would go on dates with him on the week days and then go on different dates with other guys on the weekends. That apparently was very normal back then. If you did that now, the guy would leave you in a flash and accuse you of cheating. Dating is very important in our lives right now as college students. We are here to find an eternal spouse but sometimes it is fast forwarded too much. We go to college and then get married 2 months later. I do not think that is the correct way to do it though. You do not know that person. My mom always says that you need to date someone through every season so you know how they act through each season. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now which is crazy long in Mormon world but it has been good. We really get to know each other and see who we really are and it has been great. We do want to get married in the future but we are not rushing it. We are enjoying our time where we are and are not going to rush anything. Dating early on is good to learn what you like and what you do not like and then you can filter it through and make a list on what you like and what you do not. When I was younger I wrote a list about what I want in a future spouse and have stuck to it. Some things I have written are " outgoing, funny, righteous, priesthood holder, loves his family, loves my family, and loves children". I encourage everyone to do that and stick to it. We need to have standards and not just have the first to come around and just be "okay" with it. We all have someone out there for each and every one of us. We just need to wait for our time and be patient.
XOXO
-Claire
Thursday, May 28, 2020
Friday, May 22, 2020
Gender and Family Life
When you hear the word " gender" it can be a very touchy topic. 20 years ago someone would just have said its either a boy or girl. In 2020 it can mean multiple things. Then we get to the topic of same gender attraction. Is it okay? Do Christians hate gays? Is it a choice to be gay? Those are all very controversial topics that I sadly do not have the answers to. But I will share what I think. As a Mormon we are taught that marriage should be between a man and woman and that that is God's plan. A man is there to provide for his family and the woman is there to nurture the family. Each person has a role. One should not do more than the other. They work as a team. Also each parent sets a roll for the children. There are things that a dad can teach the children that the mom cannot and there are things that the mom can teach the children that the dad cannot. So when there are two mom's or two dad's then those children are missing certain things from that " missing" parent. We do NOT and never will hate gays. We are told to love everyone and that is what we will do. I will try to give an example that could either help someone understand it better or just make it worse.. but Ill give it a shot. You love your family right? You would do anything for them but sometimes you don't really like the choices they make- your sister wearing your clothes without asking, your mom signing you up to babysit on a fun Friday night or your brother leaving his dirty clothes everywhere. You can love gay people with all of your heart but not love what actions they are doing. God created a man and a woman to be able to create children which is a big part of why we are here on earth. You cannot create a baby with the same gender. Some gay people say it was their choice and some say they did not have a choice, either way we should love one another and be there for eachother because are all humans and all have challenges and should not put anyone down. We are all on the same team so lets start acting like it.
XOXOXO
-Claire
XOXOXO
-Claire
Thursday, May 14, 2020
Culture
Hey everyone!
This week we will be talking about culture. When I first heard that I had to write about culture, I was a little nervous. I do not feel like my family has a certain culture but in class we talked about how even in different places in the United States of America can have different cultures. That got me thinking... I have lived in Florida my whole entire life even in the same house. I have not really ventured out into any other parts of the country to live there. Until I got an email that said I got accepted to Brigham Young University- Idaho. I was thrilled. Everyone in high school would share where they are going to college and everyone would say " wow Idaho? That is so far, I did not know there was anything in Idaho other than potatoes." But I was still excited. Both of my older sisters have gone there and they warned me about " culture shock" I had no idea what that was but I did not think it could be too bad. I got to college and a few days in, I started realizing things around me that I was not used to. College students bringing a baby to class, college students being married, college students getting married after four months of knowing someone, saying a prayer and singing a hymn before starting class, living in a very tiny town, everyone being so nice to each other and teachers involving church topics into a math class.Someone in class brought up how he thought it was so weird that everyone played some game called spike ball where you throw a ball into a net and try to get it to not hit the floor and he was just confused why so many people were playing this game and playing a lot of games in general haha. Now before anyone tries to assume, I do not think any of these things are wrong or bad. I was just not used to this at all and did not expect it. None of those things happen in my hometown. I did not prepare myself for it. But that is just the culture of Rexburg , Idaho. Even just after a few days, I fell in love with Rexburg. I fell in love with those weird cultured things in Rexburg. The culture where I live is very different. Young Adults go to college to party and not get married. It is not a small town- when you go to the grocery store you walk past strangers that you have never seen and probably wont see ever again. Yet, in Rexburg you will go to the grocery store and you will run into your professor, that baby that you sit next to in your math class, and a TA in one of your classes. I LOVE IT! In my family I thought we did not really have a culture but when I started thinking about it, we do. My grandma is from Alabama and we do have some southern flare in our family. Lots of food is always at a gathering and will most likely always be fried. We love to make everyone welcome at our house and make them feel like they are part of our family as well. No matter where you are from or where you are, there is culture. This week go around town and see what YOUR culture is and what you love the most about it.
XOXO
-Claire
Stay you.
This week we will be talking about culture. When I first heard that I had to write about culture, I was a little nervous. I do not feel like my family has a certain culture but in class we talked about how even in different places in the United States of America can have different cultures. That got me thinking... I have lived in Florida my whole entire life even in the same house. I have not really ventured out into any other parts of the country to live there. Until I got an email that said I got accepted to Brigham Young University- Idaho. I was thrilled. Everyone in high school would share where they are going to college and everyone would say " wow Idaho? That is so far, I did not know there was anything in Idaho other than potatoes." But I was still excited. Both of my older sisters have gone there and they warned me about " culture shock" I had no idea what that was but I did not think it could be too bad. I got to college and a few days in, I started realizing things around me that I was not used to. College students bringing a baby to class, college students being married, college students getting married after four months of knowing someone, saying a prayer and singing a hymn before starting class, living in a very tiny town, everyone being so nice to each other and teachers involving church topics into a math class.Someone in class brought up how he thought it was so weird that everyone played some game called spike ball where you throw a ball into a net and try to get it to not hit the floor and he was just confused why so many people were playing this game and playing a lot of games in general haha. Now before anyone tries to assume, I do not think any of these things are wrong or bad. I was just not used to this at all and did not expect it. None of those things happen in my hometown. I did not prepare myself for it. But that is just the culture of Rexburg , Idaho. Even just after a few days, I fell in love with Rexburg. I fell in love with those weird cultured things in Rexburg. The culture where I live is very different. Young Adults go to college to party and not get married. It is not a small town- when you go to the grocery store you walk past strangers that you have never seen and probably wont see ever again. Yet, in Rexburg you will go to the grocery store and you will run into your professor, that baby that you sit next to in your math class, and a TA in one of your classes. I LOVE IT! In my family I thought we did not really have a culture but when I started thinking about it, we do. My grandma is from Alabama and we do have some southern flare in our family. Lots of food is always at a gathering and will most likely always be fried. We love to make everyone welcome at our house and make them feel like they are part of our family as well. No matter where you are from or where you are, there is culture. This week go around town and see what YOUR culture is and what you love the most about it.
XOXO
-Claire
Stay you.
Thursday, May 7, 2020
Family Dynamics
Hi Friends,
I know this is only my second week of writing this blog but I think that this week might be my favorite topic. I want to talk about Family Dynamics. I thought this was just so interesting to talk about. In class, I loved listening to everyone's comments and thoughts on everything. We talked about a very interesting topic: What are some " unspoken" rules in your home that you just have always known? It was kind of hard for me to think of one but then when others started sharing I just got the biggest laughs because I thought my family only had these unspoken rules but I guess I was wrong. A few of those unspoken rules from my family are: The OLDEST child can only sit in the front seat when were all driving, we are all grown up now but when we are all in a car together you can bet that my oldest sister is in the front. For this next one, I swore I was the only one who had to do this so I am making a public apology to my mom for all the hard times I gave her on this one saying that I was the only kid who had to do this- We were expected to have our rooms cleaned when we had visitors over for dinner. I just never understood that. Why would I have to have my room cleaned when someone is coming over for dinner.. are these people coming into my room to eat dinner? That would be awkward. Apparently a lot of other moms made their kids do that too.. it made me feel better that it wasn't just me. We have "unspoken" assigned seats at dinner. My mom never told us that you can only sit in that exact seat but it has just become our seats. You never really notice it but now that I look at it, my family totally has assigned seats. Growing up I was always the baby of the family and still am even at the age of 19. I always would bring a bar stool to the dinner table and would sit by my mom but when I started getting older and bigger, the bar stool did not work. At that time, my older siblings were growing up and moving out and I eventually moved to a " real" chair. To this day I would never call it my assigned seat though. My true seat is by my mom on a bar stool. We also were asked how we knew this was a rule if it was unspoken, I found out about the front seat rule when I finally one day told myself that I would try and get to the front seat FIRST... then a few seconds later I saw an annoyed older sister and heard " Mom!! Tell Claire to get out the front seat!!" I have to admit, I did try a few more times but then finally gave up. The front seat is for the oldest sibling. Period. Many of us may think that our family dynamics are weird, embarrassing, stupid or pointless but they're not. Wanna know why? Because they make up YOUR family and they are your team. Look back at those family dynamics and see how they made you, you and how it makes up your family. They also are good to reminisce on funny time and make good laughs. Call up some of your family members this week and reminisce on some of your families unspoken rules and see how they made you, you. Remember that Family is Everything.
XOXO
-Claire
Stay YOU.
I know this is only my second week of writing this blog but I think that this week might be my favorite topic. I want to talk about Family Dynamics. I thought this was just so interesting to talk about. In class, I loved listening to everyone's comments and thoughts on everything. We talked about a very interesting topic: What are some " unspoken" rules in your home that you just have always known? It was kind of hard for me to think of one but then when others started sharing I just got the biggest laughs because I thought my family only had these unspoken rules but I guess I was wrong. A few of those unspoken rules from my family are: The OLDEST child can only sit in the front seat when were all driving, we are all grown up now but when we are all in a car together you can bet that my oldest sister is in the front. For this next one, I swore I was the only one who had to do this so I am making a public apology to my mom for all the hard times I gave her on this one saying that I was the only kid who had to do this- We were expected to have our rooms cleaned when we had visitors over for dinner. I just never understood that. Why would I have to have my room cleaned when someone is coming over for dinner.. are these people coming into my room to eat dinner? That would be awkward. Apparently a lot of other moms made their kids do that too.. it made me feel better that it wasn't just me. We have "unspoken" assigned seats at dinner. My mom never told us that you can only sit in that exact seat but it has just become our seats. You never really notice it but now that I look at it, my family totally has assigned seats. Growing up I was always the baby of the family and still am even at the age of 19. I always would bring a bar stool to the dinner table and would sit by my mom but when I started getting older and bigger, the bar stool did not work. At that time, my older siblings were growing up and moving out and I eventually moved to a " real" chair. To this day I would never call it my assigned seat though. My true seat is by my mom on a bar stool. We also were asked how we knew this was a rule if it was unspoken, I found out about the front seat rule when I finally one day told myself that I would try and get to the front seat FIRST... then a few seconds later I saw an annoyed older sister and heard " Mom!! Tell Claire to get out the front seat!!" I have to admit, I did try a few more times but then finally gave up. The front seat is for the oldest sibling. Period. Many of us may think that our family dynamics are weird, embarrassing, stupid or pointless but they're not. Wanna know why? Because they make up YOUR family and they are your team. Look back at those family dynamics and see how they made you, you and how it makes up your family. They also are good to reminisce on funny time and make good laughs. Call up some of your family members this week and reminisce on some of your families unspoken rules and see how they made you, you. Remember that Family is Everything.
XOXO
-Claire
Stay YOU.
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