Dating

This week we talked about dating and how things have changed in the days. 20 or 30 years ago it was normal to date numerous people at the same time and that was normal. Now a days you only go on dates with one person at a time. If you go on dates with multiple people then you are a player or not serious. Much has changed. My mom told me that she went on dates with multiple people even when she was *not officially* dating my dad. My dad went to track events every weekend so my mom would go on dates with him on the week days and then go on different dates with other guys on the weekends. That apparently was very normal back then. If you did that now, the guy would leave you in a flash and accuse you of cheating. Dating is very important in our lives right now as college students. We are here to find an eternal spouse but sometimes it is fast forwarded too much. We go to college and then get married 2 months later. I do not think that is the correct way to do it though. You do not know that person. My mom always says that you need to date someone through every season so you know how they act through each season. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now which is crazy long in Mormon world but it has been good. We really get to know each other and see who we really are and it has been great. We do want to get married in the future but we are not rushing it. We are enjoying our time where we are and are not going to rush anything. Dating early on is good to learn what you like and what you do not like and then you can filter it through and make a list on what you like and what you do not. When I was younger I wrote a list about what I want in a future spouse and have stuck to it. Some things I have written are " outgoing, funny, righteous, priesthood holder, loves his family, loves my family, and loves children". I encourage everyone to do that and stick to it. We need to have standards and not just have the first to come around and just be "okay" with it. We all have someone out there for each and every one of us. We just need to wait for our time and be patient.

XOXO
-Claire